hey, I'm Jeff Rogers.

I've been married to my wife, Tina, for over 30 years.

I am No Stranger to Relationship Struggles.

We met at a business meeting in 1992 and the rest was history. This may sound cheesy but I actually knew at that moment, THIS was the woman I would spend the rest of my life with.

Our early dating life was an adventure. Travel, parties, lots of friends and fun. We were living life for sure. Before we knew it we were engaged.

We had done some pretty intense personal growth classes together so we felt we were way ahead of the curve and marriage would be a piece of cake!

We soon found out how arrogant that was!

Tina got pregnant with our first child right away which added to our challenges. Raging hormones and buying our first home while in the midst of a nasty custody battle for my oldest daughter from a previous relationship, presented a fair share of stress on our relationship. We struggled to manage conflict the best way we knew, but coming from 2 VERY different backgrounds made it nearly impossible to resolve our disagreements.

We did what most people do, we tried counseling.

Although sessions every other week in a little room with a stranger helped us resolve a specific issue from time to time, they never gave us the time to get to the root of the challenges and we never learned the tools to manage conflict when it came up.

We had no tools and no strategies to navigate our communication in everyday life.

As a top facilitator for a personal growth company ...

And running my own business, I was constantly on the road, leaving my wife, Tina, to juggle our newborn, household duties, and her career as a mortgage broker. My limited home time and exhaustion made me emotionally distant, fueling resentment between us.

**So...we tried counseling again.**

For a time, life seemed better; we upgraded our lifestyle, enjoying vacations and new purchases, which masked our issues temporarily.

During the 2007 market crash, I launched my corporate coaching business, BrainStorm, to be more present at home. Unfortunately, the timing coincided with Tina’s company folding, plunging us into financial difficulties. Tina supported my new venture, but working together while managing our financial and family challenges proved incredibly stressful.

Working together to build a business while trying to keep finances and family afloat was tough!

Working together added more stress to our already tense relationship. Then, Tina’s battle with Thyroid Cancer and the subsequent depression she faced only deepened our struggles.

This time we tried going to our Pastor for help.

Pastor Kevin encouraged us to persevere, suggesting we maintain our family unit until our son was older, believing stability was crucial for him. Reluctantly, I agreed to push through the hard times, holding off any decision about our marriage until our son was more grown.

I just wanted to feel heard ...

By 2012, our financial woes reached a breaking point, and Tina handed me divorce papers. We were even fighting over who'd get the dog. Amid those sleepless nights, feeling like a failure because I couldn't make my wife happy, I had a revelation—I just wanted to be heard. It hit me: maybe Tina felt the same way.

That moment sparked a quest to master respectful communication, where neither of us would feel attacked or defensive, changing the course of our marriage.

What I Realized Was Simple, Yet Profound...

I have always believed in and coached my clients on accountability.

I have always believed in and coached my clients on accountability so I stopped blaming Tina and started looking at what I was doing to create challenges in our relationship. What I realized was simple but yet profound, If this was going to be better it had to be up to me and my ultimate commitment to the result. I decided to take off the armor, put down my sword and start working on a better version of me.

I started listening without judgment or the need to be right, I just listened and did my best not to take her thoughts personally.

Doing that created a space to listen.

When I stopped yelling, she stopped yelling. When I stopped saying yes to things I didn't want to do just to make her happy, she stopped asking me to.

then everything changed...

Finally, something tangible we could use.

Once we started using these new communication tools in our relationship. Things got better quickly. I started teaching these tools to my coaching clients and they started seeing tremendous results too! These were the tools we were seeking each time we went to a counselor.

Finally something tangible we could use to save our marriage and it worked!

We didn't file those divorce papers. Instead we started working on the vision for our relationship. Before we knew it those 6 years I promised my Pastor had passed.

We spend time during COVID strengthening our relationship skills. We thought that if we could Rehab our Relationship through all our trials and setbacks, we could help others do the same.

28 Years of of Human Behavior Coaching

A testament to the power of commitment and change...

Drawing on over 28 years of experience in human behavior and coaching, I developed tools and programs that have empowered countless couples to transform their relationships, just as Tina and I have. Our journey has shown that positive change is possible, regardless of the challenges faced.

Today, we're living our dream life in North Idaho, surrounded by nature and the activities we love like boating, hiking, and skiing. We cherish our family time more than ever, enjoying life with our children and grandchildren. Our story is a testament to the power of commitment and change in a marriage.

I'm eager to help you achieve the same kind of fulfillment and success in your relationship.